For Carers

For Carers

This page was last modified on 15th February 2010 at 01:05


If you are married to, the parent of, or living with a Brain Tumour patient, then you are a caregiver. You may not even realise that you are a caregiver, because 100% of your focus is on your loved one, the brain tumour patient.

Caregiving is extremely stressful. As the “healthy” person, you have many additional responsibilities depending on how sick your loved one is. Most likely, you are responsible for budgeting on one salary (or a reduced salary), scheduling and driving to MRI's and follow-up doctor’s visits, doing all the cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, bill paying, managing the medication schedule and making sure you have an ample supply of regular medication from the pharmacy, bathing or dressing your loved one, helping with exercise, making sure they are eating nutritionally, helping them with personal needs, changing bandages and dressings from surgery, taking care of your children, and holding down your full time job.

Adding the role of “caregiver” to one’s regular daily activities is overwhelming, especially with the specific problems associated with brain tumours. In addition to the actual caregiving, there is the added stress of guilt. You may feel, “It should have been me” – especially if the brain Tumor patient is your spouse or your child. You may feel that since you are the “healthy” person, you must do everything. Adding to this stress is the overriding feeling of worry. You might be thinking, “Will the tumour come back? Will the next MRI be clear? Will he or she have another Seizure? Will the chemo work? Will the radiation work? Will we ever have a normal life again?”

You may be on what we call “the brain tumour treadmill,” a cycle of repetitive stress, worry, work, cook, clean, grocery shop, worry, find the cure for brain tumours, worry, visit doctors, search for treatments, worry, feel guilty, worry. You might not have anyone to talk to about YOUR fears. You might not be sleeping well, which causes more mental and physical stress. Maybe you think it will upset your loved one to discuss your worries and your fears. You might have an unsympathetic boss or workplace, maybe your extended family or your spouse’s extended family just does not understand, or they are so worried and upset about their son or daughter that they can’t see that you need help too.

As caregivers, it’s very hard to admit we need help. But, continuing on the “treadmill” can have devastating and life-long effects on your physical and emotional health. You alone as the caregiver cannot find the cure for Cancer, and you cannot take care of everything and fix everything yourself. Unfortunately, most people will not realise that you need help. We caregivers are very good at playing super-mum, dad, wife, husband, partner, brother, sister. We think we can handle it all by ourselves, and don’t realise the damage we are actually causing to our own health. In order to be a better caregiver, we must also take care of ourselves. If you are a caregiver, YOU NEED TO ASK FOR HELP!!

People who don’t realise how overwhelmingly stressful caregiving is might say, “If you need anything, call me.” They might not want to intrude on your privacy and only offer to help if you call them. They don’t realise that you are too stressed out and overwhelmed with worry to have the time to call.

We have put together some information below that we hope will help you as you work your way through the daily stresses and strains that this brain tumour journey can bring.This information is in addition to the other sections of our website and we would recommend that you look through those as well, just incase what you are looking for is in a different section.

If you have any problems finding an article, would like to suggest an article or you feel others may find something useful please contact us and we'll get them added as soon as we can.


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